When “Enough” Feels Like Never Enough: A Single Mom’s Story
Being a single mom can feel like running a marathon uphill in a hurricane! I hope I won’t get bashed for this but a lot goes on in parenting a child/ children alone that we should be allowed to rant sometimes without all the stereotypes and mean comments that comes with it.
This journey is hard enough without judgment. Let’s be honest, being a single mom is like juggling flaming chainsaws while blindfolded on a tightrope. You just want to scream sometimes, right? But the world throws enough negativity our way, so here’s a safe space to vent.
Fast forward, I’m a single mom to a brilliant little girl. Some days, with the economy the way it is, I feel like I’m drowning; worsening is that the weight feels unbearable day after day.
Then there are those gut-wrenching holidays like Father’s Day, a constant reminder of what your child/children seems to miss: a constant reminder of the gaping hole in our family.
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It’s even tougher when they’re old enough to understand the complexities of family and have questions about their identity.
Right now, money is my biggest stressor. Maintaining a relationship with my daughter’s father just for financial support feels exhausting. I work full-time and go to school, but it’s a constant uphill battle. I try, believe me, I do. But that stability I crave, that feeling of being able to stand on my own two feet, seems like a distant dream.
He sends money when he feels like it, which hasn’t been much lately. The disappointment stings, and honestly, it’s pushing me towards depression. People tell me to cut him off, pretend he doesn’t exist, but it’s not that simple.
This is my vent session, my chance to breathe. To all my fellow single moms out there, how are you holding up? Does it ever get easier, to a point where your child’s father’s absence feels less like a weight dragging you down?
Growing Up With a Single Parent
I also wanted to share a bit about my own childhood. I grew up with a single dad. He was bitter, angry sometimes, and I never understood why. Now, as a single mom myself, I see it all so clearly. His anger stemmed from his own struggles, his own burdens.
Your strength as a single parent
Your perspective on family is beautiful. While a complete family unit is ideal, sometimes life throws curveballs. In those situations, the focus should be on raising a well-rounded, happy, and disciplined child. Filling them with love, guidance, and faith is paramount. You are their rock, their confidante, and their advocate.
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Never give up. It’s a tough road, but you are strong, and you are not alone.
Never give up, mamas. It’s a tough road, but we are strong, and we are not alone. To all the single moms-to-be out there, considering this path, know that it’s challenging, but incredibly rewarding.
And to those struggling in marriages, sometimes, staying together for the sake of the children does more harm than good. If you can create a loving, supportive environment, even as a single parent, your children will thrive.
We may not have the “perfect” family unit, but we have the most important thing; love. And with that, we can build something incredible.
And if you are still lucky to be able to access your baby daddy, be respectful to him, respect his privacy and show patience towards him. You will win his heart back and you will be able to co-parent the kid or kids.
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In this life, have learned dramas and social media hypes only worsens situations and if you follow, you are domed. I wish my grandmother warned me enough against somethings now i know better, but that is a story for another day.
Here’s the thing: while a complete family is the ideal, life throws curveballs. Sometimes, things don’t work out the way we planned. But in those situations, the focus has to shift.
It has to be on raising a happy, well-rounded, and loved child. Filling them with love, guidance, faith, those are the cornerstones. You are their rock, their safe space.